Friday, September 25, 2009

I Do, Again?

Being a romantic, I am always thrilled when the subject of weddings come up. I love to listen/talk about weddings. Dresses, flowers, music...vows, receptions and cake!

Oh yes, don't forget the cake, erhm hint though, don't fall for the save the top for the first year does not freeze well. Eat that baby up then and there, or find some interesting game to play with it. ~whistling angelically~

Yep, I love weddings. However, I don't feel the romance in vow renewals, per se.

Wow, doesn't that make me sound like a grumpy grump. Wait, let me explain.

I love vow renewals, just not the public ones. Huh? I'm getting there, I promise.

See, I think of renewing ones vows is a very personal thing, far more so than a wedding. Odds are, this is the partner I've spent 20 or more years with. This is the love I've gone through heck and back with, the lover I've trusted with all of my fantasies and sometimes interesting desires. This person is the match to my soul and over the years our connection has grown larger than I could ever imagine.

For me, I can think of nothing more romantic than finding a beautiful spot in this big wide world were my love and I could sprawl out and tell each other all of the reasons we love each other, warts and all, including things I would not say in front of anyone else. Now that for me, is a vow renewal.

Okay, I hear ya, shouldn't we do this everyday? Heavens yes, but do we? Or do we some days chase our tail to the point of exhaustion and flop into bed with a "Hey, I love..." snort, snoring ensues.

How about the flip side to that, do we overuse that love word? Say it every time we leave the house or room? Has it become a non word?

Probably not, but hey, you never know.

So tell me, what would be your perfect vow renewal?


Lindsay Townsend said...

I agree, Serena. Lovely, romantic post!!

Serena Shay said...

Thanks Lindsay! Have a great weekend. :)

Savanna Kougar said...

The few public vow renewals I've seen have been moving and profound. However, there would be a deeper level, a deeper meaning in saying it privately, just you two talking with each other, gazing at one another and saying those things you wouldn't say in public.
Love, ain't it grand...

Serena Shay said...

Awesome that you've seen some renewals that are profound and moving, Savanna! I've seen so few and the ones I have seen have been shall we say more materialistic than I care for...~sigh~

Love is most wonderfully grand, especially with the other half of your heart to share it with!

hehe, yep, I'm definately a mushy, gushy romantic deep down. ((hugs))

Bekki Lynn said...

Great post!

I think the perfect vow renewal happens every single day you are together. It's in all the ways you look at one another. In the touches, the smiles, the life you share. The being there when life sucks, when it beams and all the betweens.

That said.

Weddings and all the girly stuff isn't for me.

re: the wedding cake top -- ours did beautifully. We thawed it out and it was fresh, moist and as if we'd just bought it.

Serena Shay said...

Absolutely Bekki! The show me you love me, just by the everyday things you do is a perfect kind of vow renewal. :)

Wow! Moist and yummy! Lucky you. Ours, erhm, was not! ;)

Have a great weekend!