Undressing for Love - a guest blog by writer and artist David Russell

Undressing for Love - a guest blog by David Russell.

(*NB: 'Girl' and 'Boy' signify someone over 18)


Below are some tips from the writer and artist David Russell about the play of undressing for love. They've given me some ideas for my own writing and scene creation, too! Thanks, David, for being a guest blogger here today at HEA. Now onto your article.


For me, sex and love is nothing without refined, dramatic foreplay. Dressing and undressing are the kingpin of that foreplay. There are five basic kinds of unrobing which can be brought into any encounter, whether real or part of a romantic scene in a story or novel.



1. Girl* undresses in front of boy: any girl that takes the disrobing initiative can get really proud and confident, and pre-establish her control over the love scene. Girls: do a self-striptease in front of the mirror; love the sight of your bodies. Say to yourself - however great you look in any outfit, you look ten times lovelier with your clothes off.


2. Boy* undresses in front of girl: come on: get over your shyness, boys. Do your own self-striptease: do as the girls do.


3. Boy undresses girl: every boy should know how to disrobe a girl properly, and make her feel great as her gorgeous body is revealed.

4. Girl undresses boy: be liberated, girls. How many boys, deep inside, want to be your beautiful hunks, your sex-objects. (And they also have their feminine side).

5. Boy and girl undress each other: great to alternate – each partner taking off each other's garments in sequence (OK: the alternation can be made with 1 & 2).



Any couple fancying each other should first get a mutual eyeful at a workout centre or a swimming pool. Swimsuits proclaim beauty and allure, They have an air of mystery; they get the imagination going. Arms and legs moving in the water evoke the pulsing rhythms of love. I imagine beautiful girls doing the backstroke giving themselves to me in total love.

Great go go through a few wardrobe changes within one love session. Start off both comfortably dressed for preliminary necking and petting. Skin-tight gear is really uncomfortable for this, so try something looser. Girls: make sure the zip on your jeans us easy to handle, or wear a skirt that is easy to lift during petting. You must offer some token thigh to lead your boy on, and help clinch your control of him.



Great to start the ecstatic process while your French kisses are really hotting up on the sofa, getting longer, breathier, deeper. Girls: hold the crown of your boy's head as he curls tongues with you; unbutton his shirt, feel down his torso and back, start to undo his trousers. Boys: put one arm around your girl's waist; with the other, gently raise her skirt, feel her thighs, unbutton her blouse, feel her back, press her breasts inside her bra. Don't undo it yet. And if you can do all this while holding a kiss, it's fabulous.



You're probably lying on the sofa at this point. Now stand and face each other. Let skirt and trousers fall. Show yourselves to each other as if you were modelling. Have a really tight embrace in your underwear; keep it on for the moment. Boys: now undo your girl's bra, and do it gently, delicately – watch those flimsy shoulder straps. Girls: lift your arms in the air as he does it. You conquer him through the gesture of surrender.



Now – to build up more suspense, a wardrobe change. One of you stay in the bedroom or lounge to change, the other go into the bathroom.



Some wardrobe ideas – swimwear. This can be great, bringing the beach into the bedroom. Boys: build up a collection of boxer shorts and trunks of different shapes and sizes. Don't be shy: try them on in front of the mirror. See which you look/feel sexiest in. Girls are turned on by boxer shorts – but trunks, right proportion in the right light, can give that second wave.



Girls: try on your one-pieces, bikinis, lingerie and body-stockings in front of the mirror; get high on your auto-erotic kicks. See which is really you, at your strongest and sexiest. (I feel that 40s and 50s retro one-pieces still have the edge; interested to hear readers' opinions. Or how about wearing swimsuit under lingerie? One extra layer gives more suspense, and a bit of see-through more still.)


Put on tee-shirts and shorts. Imagine you meet and fall for each other on the beach. Peel off each other's shirts, tops and shorts – strip each other for glorious athletic action. (Girls: you may prefer a bathrobe to a tee-shirt; that's fine.) It's great to feel the adrenalin pushing against your costumes and against your partner's body as you're poised to plunge for the swim of love. Do plenty of hand play around the edges of your suits. Boys: run your hands down in sweeping curves over your girl's bra and cleavage, and down her back. Feel inside her bra if it's not too tight. Do the same on her hips. Girl: feel your boy's hips and thighs by the edge of his trunks.
Turn the lights down low as you finally remove your costumes. Good to stand up and do so before you finally go to bed. Boys: taking off a glamorous one-piece takes a steady hand; cultivate one. Girls: some sexy trunks have knotted waistbands; be practised with knots.


Other ideas: Boys: uniforms and period gear. Girls: if you can get flowing ball gowns, that's marvellous. It's one of my favourite turn-ons to see a girl stepping out of a voluminous, or a skimpy gown to show off a swimmer's body. Schoolgirl gymslips are wonderful for petting.


A really good two-way strip can lift either/both of you up to a great androgynous feeling, break down your barriers with each other. So, macho woman and feminine man, get it together. Great, beautiful sex can free you from the constrictions of your gender categories.


Enrich your love lives with a good (un)dress sense.
But don't forget to fit the condoms into the programme.

David Russell.
About the Author


Born 12 June 1940 and living in West London, UK, David is a writer in all genres, including poetry, fiction, and criticism, and he is a guitarist and singer-songwriter. Some of David's erotic poems have been featured in anthologies produced by Forward Press. He has a collection of poetry and prose entitled Prickling Counterpoints, that has been published in many magazines. He has written two novellas: High Wired On (speculative fiction) and Self's Blossom (romance). The latter, together with the short story Explorations, have been published by Silk's Vault. His albums include Bricolage (Hangman Records, 1992) and Bacteria Shrapnel (Posterity Recordings, 1997).

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